Thursday, December 22, 2011

Astrological Compatibility - The Astrology of Relationship, Component I - Aspects

By Visjack Nick


Astrology can teach us much about our relationships with others if we spend some time getting to know the symbolic language over a far more intimate level. Commonly after folks speak of astrological compatibility they're speaking of their sun signs only. What you'll always hear is "I am a Leo and I normally do not get in addition to Scorpios" or "I am a Virgo and Pisces individuals incredibly drive me crazy." What is missing here, of course, is an understanding of what it is about other individuals that extremely challenges us over a deeper level

To get a clearer understanding of astrological compatibility it is necessary to delve into a couple of facets of astrology: the issues as well as the aspects. The issues we use in astrology are fire, water, air and earth. Each astrological sign falls into one of these categories. Aries, Leo and Sagittarius are the fire signs that are usually associated with our potential to perceive on an intuitive level. Cancer, Scorpio and Pisces are water signs which relate to the emotional aspects of our being. Libra, Aquarius and Gemini are all air signs and correspond for the mental or intellectual plane. And finally, Capricorn, Taurus and Virgo are the earth signs and relate on the physical or sensate qualities we possess.

The aspects are the interrelationships or dynamics that exist among the elements. The aspects determine the relative ease or "dis-ease" exactly where the items will operate. For example, in Figure One I have laid out the points in their natural relationships. As you can see fire and air and water and earth oppose each other (180 degrees apart). In addition each element is squared (in a 90 degree relationship) with each on the other elements. These two relationships, the opposition and square are probably the most complicated in the aspects between the elements. Does this mean then that should you happen being an Aries (a fire sign) that each earth, water and air sign you meet will be a challenge for you in some way? Fortunately not!

In Figures 2, 3 and 4, I've laid out three diagrams of that the signs aspect or interrelate with each other. To interpret these examples all you do is find your birth sign and compare that from the other signs on your specific diagram. While using Aries birth, for example, you would find that your relationships with Cancer, Libra and Capricorn would be challenging. Another water, air and earth signs during the remaining diagrams would not be as tough and, in most cases, would be fairly smooth going.

This is because as an Aries you'd be in certain aspect (trine) with the other fire signs and positive aspect (sextile) with the other air signs outside of your diagram. Similarly, should you are a Taurus you can find it more tough being around Leo, Scorpio and Aquarius and easier to be for the other earth signs and water signs outside of one's own diagram.

To demonstrate how these principles operate in a relationship I'd like to share with you the dynamics of a couple I worked having a few many years ago. She was a Scorpio with five of her ten planets in that sign and he was a Taurus from the same quantity of planets in Taurus. As you are able to see in the diagram Taurus and Scorpio are opposite every other and theirs was a standard example in the opposition relationship. In this sort of relationship, that may be extremely common, (remember the old adage, opposites attract?) the couple usually draws the opposite to them for your purpose of healing and being whole. What occurs many times though, is how the couple ends up spending most of their time creating the other person's reality wrong!

In this situation she was the emotionally expressive a single from the relationship and tended being type of "spacey" and very ungrounded in her body. He was the epitome from the "classic" rational "I don't consider it unless I see it" kind of guy. He wasn't interested or able at the time of "being with" her deep, emotional material and she wasn't in a position to see the positive aspects of his earthy qualities. This is not to say that the opposition relationship won't work. It's just much more tough because it requires that both partners honor and accept the gift that their partner is offering them. It also takes beneficial discipline to consciously develop the parts of ourselves that is certainly over created in our partner so that we do not require them to be whole ourselves.

The square relationship can also be really well-liked and I call it the "growth through confrontation" relationship. The crux of this relationship is that every partner challenges another to keep growing usually via confrontation and conflict! In the square relationship it often appears how the couple undermines and thwarts probably the most intentions of every other. The sure side of this type of relationship is that it provides plenty of energy and motivation to break out of old methods of relating. The only dilemma is that it can be very painful for all of those involved. Nevertheless, for people which are very committed to growing each individually and being a couple and who as a whole lot of fireworks in their relationship, the square relationship can also be quite dynamic and can produce many breakthroughs.

The conjunct relationship, or relationships that share the same sign, are probably the most rare and one of the most challenging. Simply because each partner is similar in several ways there is a compelling pull to merge of the other and to blur the boundaries that give rise to individuality. Objectivity tends to get thrown out the window and it becomes quite complicated for the couple to distinguish in which they stand in relation to every other. The reward of this balancing act is a relationship that reflects a singleness of purpose, and an intensity that provides motivation for accomplishing significantly together.

Interestingly sufficient the "easier" relationships, the trine relationship (both partners in the same element) as well as the sextile relationship (fire with any air outside one's unique diagram, or water with any earth element outside one's personal diagram) are not as well-liked as the a lot more difficult relationships we've been discussing. Possibly this accounts for your high divorce rate that exists in this country! Perhaps we choose the hard relationships to move beyond what our familiar patterns of relationship have been. Due to the fact 1 on the gifts of being in relationship is the opportunity to grow both individually and in relation to others possibly we need that extra challenge to incredibly motivate us to change and grow.




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