Saturday, October 1, 2011

Must Lovers Resort to Kundli Matching?

By Graham Flynn


On Astrological sites, forums along with other publications, very always we read from frustrated lovers about biggest obstacle on their way - the Kundli Matching. Our young children do have respect to your sentiments and social popularity of their elders. This really is the reason they wish their elders to bless them inside the wedlock. They wish that their beloved be accepted as a future spouse. At this juncture, they face the test of Kundli Matching.One can only imagine how badly they need to be feeling about Astrology when they are denied marriage due to non-compatibility on a basis of Astrology.! Hearts matched but Kundlis didn't.!

While marriage after short word 'ILU ILU' has its own hazards, I strongly think that rejecting an otherwise excellent boy or a girl due to low score on astrological compatibility is just too much. The saying 'Known devil is better than an unknown angel' includes a lot to say here.

Golden Advice to Lovers

It would not be wise to go in for Kundli Matching when you are involved to your substantial time. If some thing negative comes out during such matching; it would create a doubt for the whole life.

I personally believe how the 'Kundli Matching' is often a futile exercise. You're shocked to obtain this kind of a comment from an astrologer.! Yes, I am astrologer and even though, I think this strongly. I have 2 little ones and I have in no way indulged in matching their kundlis. That is because, I have understood the idea of Kundli Matching astrology and I don't entertain astrology at the price of my commonsense.

Astrologer could be just instrumental.!

I know how the relationship of Husband-Wife establishes only once there's very great degree of 'Rinanubandhan' (Past dues being settled). So, once you'll find large dues to become settled with each other, then only 2 men and women would become spouses. Understanding the meaning of fate, we can't blame astrologer declaring miss-match of Kundlies. It could possibly be possible that there is not ample 'Rinanubandha' in between two lovers to be husband and wife and Kundli Matching may perhaps just be instrumental in termination with the relationship. If this can be the case, even as soon as kundli matching is OK, there could be some other hurdles to obstruct the relationship to materialize.

What is Kundli?

The kundli is charted on a basis of the position of planets at the time of birth. Astrologers interpret the Kundlies over a basis of placement and combination of planets therein. As the possibility of possessing a house, education, job, health etc. are assessed from several houses/planets in the horoscope; similarly the marital happiness 1 is destined to derive can be indicated within the birth chart itself. So if 1 is married to 'x' or 'y' the total possible happiness of married life need to not change.

Does Birth Chart changes following Marriage?

You may possibly ask the astrologer who matches kundlis, whether the horoscope gets changed right after marriage? 'No' would be the answer. Now, it is a matter of commonsense that if Kundli does not change, the outcomes (about marital happiness) should be the output with the same original horoscope. It can not be inferred in any way that happiness after marriage is derived as an output of their combined horoscope.

Time has changed a lot

The kundli matching did have some practical value during the era after it was not possible for ones candidates to know each other just before marriage. During the supply era of dating and pre-marriage meetings, the prospective spouse have clearly better opportunities to understand the nature of each other. This acquaintance would be a lot more interesting rather than acquiring some rough thought about knowing the own attributes of an individual through astrology.

Most with the astrologers would avoid to accept the above info and even if they know this, their professional interest would not enable them to occur out clearly and frankly on the issue.

Male Dominance

An average astrologer would match the Kundli in the traditional 'Ashta-koot' method. This process is designed on a basis of ancient society. The parameters involved in this process are designed to assess the qualities of bride with respect to societal expectations of those days. Now the time has changed and the expectations of spouses are changed drastically. It's not at all advisable to use the outdated method of Ashta-kuta to assess compatibility on the prospective couples inside the produce era.

Without understanding the essence of Mangal in the life of todays professionally qualified girls, the astrologers arrive out with Mangalik Dosha etc. In fact, Mangal is energy and intelligence. In those people days as soon as the 'submissiveness' of wife was most desired quality, Mangal placed in particular houses in the girl's horoscope was considered bad. The program was drafted to ascertain the dominance of Male during the relationship. But now, the girls are creating exceptionally well on all fronts; be it education or occupation. For this sort of girls it is natural that she should have a prominent Mangal in her chart. With out the help of Mangal, she can not be capable gain all of the achievements. For this kind of girls, it would be natural to acquire slightly high sense of self-esteem. The expectations of today's husbands are also numerous than the traditional. They have learned the art of accommodating earning wife's domination. The males know that she isn't just a housewife, now. She is his partner. However, unfortunately the astrologers are nevertheless going ahead with their century old methods.




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